Lesson 19 - Lessons in Positivity

Lesson 19 - Lessons in Positivity

You need to carefully read and understand this lesson. It will come handy to treat many mind and body related issues including relationships. I think you should take a week to read it once a day on five day and do all the prescribed exercises.

We use the word self mainly in these contexts.

1. I, myself.
2. We, ourselves.  
   
3. You, yourself.
4. You, yourselves.
5. He, she, it, himself, herself, itself.
6. They, themselves.

What does the word self mean? Self means our existence. It becomes experienced or known when we think, reflect or introspect about ourselves and / or other/s. Now what does the word selfhood mean? Selfhood means the qualities that set individuals or groups of people apart from others. This creates individual identity and asserts our existence as persons. Self therefore indicates in body, mind and soul. This self has two components one is the I, and the other, the me. The I is the one that is affected, and me is the one that experiences. Therefore, it is the I that experiences joy, sad, pain, sadness, fear, anxiety, distress and other feelings / emotions. It is the I that is well or unwell. It is the I that is motivated or unmotivated, brave and strong or fearful and weak, that can or cannot. It is the I that experiences being insulted, ignored, hurt, pained, injured, cornered, isolated, embarrassed, guilty, exploited, wronged, harassed, used, habituated, addicted and in many more things. We need to remember that I can be an individual or a group of individuals. The group can be a family, religious, community, linguistic, racial, national, employee, professional, occupational, political or work or other group. They too have an I, that experiences right and wrong. One may wonder what has this got to do with Positivity. Actually a lot. Why? Because it concerns our well being. Me experiences the effect. I experiences it in terms of  feeling, emotion, thinking or opinion. Self is affect in mind, body and soul. There is a direct correspondence between our level of well being and the condition of our body. Of course, we have been provided with a level of stress which we can tolerate. This stress has a threshold. It reflects in many ways once the threshold is crossed. Many of the bodily ailments are caused because of our eating habits. Many more are caused by the thoughts, opinions, feelings and emotions that we deliberately hold from expressing. Here is a table to fill as an exercise.

No.	Feeling / Emotion	Cause	What do I do with it
1	Angry
2	Sad
3	Pained
4	Embarrassed

We experience six principal feelings - joy, sad, angry, fearful, surprise and disgust. Related to these six feelings are related emotions. Put together they form a wheel or circle of emotions. Here is a picture of the same.

You can choose from there to fill in the table. 

Let us take a look how the affect is handled by us.

No.	Feeling	How Frequently	How Intensely	Difficulty to Express	Difficulty in Discarding

Fill this table to know which are the feelings that we fail to express or discard. The same goes for our thoughts and opinions that we fail to express or discard. We usually use the You to express our feeling or thought or opinion. There is a safe method to use I instead. These are the steps to do it. 

1. Report the observation - We have entered into an argument. / I observe our voices are raised.
2. Report the own feeling - I feel angry. / It points to I being angry.
3. Report the need - I wish that we speak some other topic. / Let us bring down our voices.
4. Make a request - Shall we then speak some other topic. / Let us bring down our voice.

I asked to go out this Sunday. I heard you say we can go some other day. I feel sad and angry listening to this. My need is to go out. Either you take me or let me go out with my friends. I prefer I go out with you. Will you please therefore accompany me or take me out.

What happens when we do not do this? Our mood, attitude, opinion, emotion are affected. When psyche (memory cache) is affected mind is affected. When brain is affected body is affected. There is a subtle connection between mind and brain. So, when mind is affected, brain is affected. The body is affected in many ways. These affects show up as ailments. They are very nicely explained in a book by Julie Hay titled Heal Your Body. Link to Heal your Body by Julie Hay Not only that , feelings related to ailment are mentioned. The affirmations for the same is also mentioned in the book.  You can download it to your computer from my dropbox using this link. Ask me for help on WhatsApp if there is a need.

Now coming to Positivity. Feelings, emotions, thinking, opinion not expressed or communicated hurts both mind and body and thereby our well being. Positivity affords us many methods. They are given here.

1. Use the four step method given above.
2. Write a letter and post it into a postal letter box with a name but no address.
3. Do the let-go exercise.
4. Deal with the role modelling as suggested in a previous lesson.
5. Install happiness as base state of mind by doing five things given below.
6. Recite wonderful - recitation is given as attachment.
7. Recite this commitment every morning - I am committed to be happy and joyful under all conditions and circumstances of life.

Five things to do to remain happy in life

1. Engage in outdoor physical exercise / activity for forty minutes.
2. Engage in a goal oriented activity.
3. Learn something new and share it with many others.
4. Be of help or assist another.
5. Hug another, exchange fives, say something nice to another many times a day.

Summary: In this lesson we have seen the distinction between self, I and me. Then we have seen the many feelings and emotions that we experience. We have seen how feelings and emotions affect our body and mind. We have seen how these affects cause ailments and diseases in addition to causing change in our view of ourself of others, our life, our quality of living, or health among many other. We have also seen how to deal with these affects.

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Reciting Wonderful

Wonderful Wonderful Wonderful

by Ajit Karve

The universe is wonderful.

The cosmos is wonderful.

All celestial bodies are wonderful.

The galaxies are wonderful.

The mikyway is wonderful.

The constellations are wonderful.

The solar system is wonderful.

All its planets and their moons are wonderful.

The earth is wonderful.

The mountains, hills, mounds, plains, valleys and beaches are wonderful.

The oceans, seas, lakes, tanks and ponds are wonderful.

All life forms are wonderful.

All plants and animals are wonderful.

We humans are wonderful.

My parents, brothers and sisters are all wonderful.

My relatives are wonderful.

Our children are wonderful.

Their spouses are wonderful.

My neighbours are wonderful.

All my friends are wonderful.

People around me are wonderful.

Everyone in my house is wonderful.

My spouse is wonderful.

She / he is kind, loving, caring, sincere, meticulous and attentive to details.

She / he does her / his part well.

I am wonderful.

My body is wonderful.

All systems in my body are wonderful.

My mind is wonderful.

All neural and mind related systems are wonderful.

My life is wonderful. My life is wonderful. My life is wonderful.

Everything falls in place for me.

I live at peace and without stress.

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